I was watching a show the other day and one of the characters said to another character “You let yourself get too lonely” regarding her making bad choices in a certain situation. When I heard it, it immediately hit me and stuck with me, because it is so true. I am guilty of doing such things. I am guilty of becoming too lonely and then making quick (and often bad) decisions when it comes to the opposite sex. It’s like when someone is starving and then they get offered food and they eat whatever it is despite it not being the best for them, because well shit, they are starving. That’s exactly how those situations play out, and truth be told the loneliness is probably even more on all time high with this pandemic. You can’t go out, you can’t meet anyone, you can’t hug, you can’t kiss, it’s just been a mess. I mean if I am being completely honest the pandemic hasn’t changed that much for me regarding going out, because I have always been a “home body. “However, it still feels like the situation has been heightened. I also recently celebrated a birthday and like my girl Carrie Bradshaw said “I hate myself a little for saying this, but it felt really sad not to have a man in my life who cares about me. No special guy to wish me happy birthday. No got damn soul mate” There have been times due to my extreme loneliness that I have set my self up or should I say let myself down with bad decisions. I’ve allowed situationships to start back up, even though I knew damn well I shouldn’t. Even though I knew this person wasn’t the best for me in any way. Even though I knew the situation in the current or former state wasn’t what I wanted from this person. Even though I knew I deserved better, I still allowed them back into my life simply because I had been deprived. Simply because I had allowed myself to get too lonely. Let’s Talk, have you or are you currently struggling with something like this? What are some things you do to help yourself to not become too lonely? What are some tools you use to help yourself or remind yourself not to make those bad decisions when the wrong people return to your life? One thing that I think would help me is to go back to some of those books I use to read that use to keep me motivated and kept my feelings in check and realistic. Hopefully, if you do feel the way I do at times, this post will help you to remember you aren’t alone and you don’t need that situation. From Jaime With Love
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