Talk Tuesday!

“We ain’t spoke in so long, probably put me in the past.” This Talk Tuesday is about those lovely “exes” and past flings. Do you or do you not answer that call or text? We’ve all been there. When you least expect it, when your mind is on a thousand other things but him that’s when they call. That’s when they pop back up and depending on how things ended or depending on where you are currently in life those pop ups can either make you laugh or turn things upside down. For me; I can say I’ve dealt with both (and sometimes from the same person.) Yes, I can admit that I have had those “moments of weakness” and when they popped back up I lost all sense of reality. Lost all memory of why we stopped talking in the first place. It happens! You hear their voice and you instantly go back to the happy times or when you’re single and having a dry spell you think “finally some action” lol. Then there’s the flip side; when you get that call or text and you immediately laugh out loud at their audacity to be contacting you. You instantly go back to the miserable times. Remember what a clown they were and how they wasted your golden time. So the initial question was “Do you or do you not answer.” For me personally, I think that’s really based on 1. How things ended and 2. Where are you in life. If the relationship ended on “good terms” and you remain friends (which has never been my situation) then I don’t think there’s anything wrong with answering a phone call from a past ex or fling. However; if this is the person that broke your heart and fed you lie after lie then honestly he doesn’t deserve to speak to you. Don’t fool yourself into thinking “well maybe he is calling to apologize” he isn’t, and even If he is he can apologize to your voicemail. Now on to point 2. Where are you in life? If you are in a relationship with someone new, girl don’t answer that call and you probably need to go ahead and block that number. Or maybe you are not in a relationship, but you are just working on being a better you. Sometimes stepping in the past can hinder your growth. Even if things didn’t end on bad terms, but you know they ended for a good reason, trying on an old situation may not be the best thing for you if you are trying to get your butterfly on. What do you guys think? Leave them in the past or see what’s up? Let’s Talk! From Jaime With Love.